Mastering the Sasha Grey (Gag-Free) Reflex

Occasionally, I surf porn. Sometimes it's to get off, in which case I'm a creature of habit: Right now I'm fixated on gangbangs, particularly anal gangbangs. I love nothing more than to see a gaping asshole getting stretched and penetrated by a series of really thick, long cocks.... 

That split-second moment, when you see his hand gripping the shaft as he presses the glans up against her tight, trembling anus gives me shivers. Add a juicy, drippy, messy cream pie finish, and I'm delirious..... 

It's all about the hole and the pole. Faces – especially men's faces – turn me off. Why? Porn stars are performers, not actors. As soon as I see a facial expression that seems to be out of character (either too serious or exaggerated), the sense of suspended disbelief that connects the scene I'm watching with my own fantasy world dissolves. 

Am I over-intellectualizing this? Probably. I can't help it though. That's how my brain works. The physical is always connected to my emotional and imaginative landscapes. (Hint: Wanna turn me on & keep me coming back for more? Fuck me with your mind, not just your cock or your fingers.) 

Sasha Swallows a Huge Cock

Other times, I check out freebie porn when I need a visual on how to perform a specific sex act. For example, Sasha Grey, the self-styled "wrecking-ball of civilization" (did she really read Nietzsche?), taught me how to get over my gag reflex. 

Here's what I saw: 

Angled at the guy's crotch, the camera zooms in on his thick, 10-incher, while Sasha Grey's diminutive head occupies the left half of the frame. Picture perfect. 

All of a sudden she opens her mouth. In slides his cock, one slippery inch at a time, until, magically, it disappears, and all I see are Sasha's red-stained lips wrapped around the base of his shaft. Like a circus freak performing her feature act right before my eyes, she swallowed him whole, all rock-solid 10 inches, without gasping. 

(Ok, so right after her little trick he did face-fuck her until she almost puked, but that's beside my point.) 

Now I Want to Swallow One Too 

This little clip made me wonder: Can I deepthroat a cock without choking? I'm certain Sasha wasn't born without a gag reflex, so it must be an acquired skill.

The first few times I tried swallowing PC in one gulp, I did almost throw up. But I also realized something: My roadblocks were part psychological, part hormonal.

I attribute the psychological block to a fear of choking. It was easy enough to overcome. 

I asked PC to stand erect in front of me, and let me suck his cock without thrusting into my mouth. At the same time, I concentrated on relaxing my throat. Whenever his glans would graze a sensitive area I would stop, but keep him inside me. Taking a deep breath, I slowly forced him further into my throat, until, again, I was compelled to stop.

I repeated this exercise over and over, and each time he was able to penetrate deeper and deeper into my mouth. Eventually, I did swallow him entirely – without gagging.

(The hormonal block, on the other hand, is more difficult to get over, since I get nauseous when I'm ovulating or have my period.)

The D-Spot

Wanna know the best part about getting over my gag reflex? I discovered my "D-Spot." Believe it or not, the myth perpetuated by Linda Lovelace's character in the '70s cult classic Deepthroat has a basis in reality.

Contrary to this vintage porn flick's claim, however, the D-Spot is not exactly a throat clitoris. Face-fucking a cock won't give you an orgasm, no matter how hard you try, but it will stimulate a sensitive area located deep inside your mouth. And the harder you can take him without choking, the better it feels. Strangely enough, when I get into a deep, cock-sucking groove, the sensation in my throat becomes so intense that it borders on Tantric. 

Women: You should try it.

Guys: You can thank me later.